Empty Love
I'm a nerd and thus carry a pocket-sized thesaurus with me wherever I go. Here are the synonyms for the word "empty": lacking, vacant, blank, void, vacuous (it has a ring to it doesn't it... vacuous), devoid, destitute, bare, barren, exhausted and drained. Now for a fun experience, take each of those words and use it as an adjective for the word "love"-- do it... now read on.
What's even more crazy is that we have this tendency toward lunacy in that we hang on to the one-sided love affairs. We tell ourselves that we love him or her and we hold onto what we choose to believe as moments of him or her returning that love. We do this because it's better to feel tortured than to feel nothing.
Now think back to the exercise I had you do at the beginning of this post. Didn't it just seem more and more unnatural the more into you went on? Now listen to this clip from The Holiday.
I guess my question today to you is, why do we allow ourselves this painful pleasure? What do we stand to gain when we risk everything for a sure failure?
We each deserve to be loved and to love in a sincere way. Synonyms for "sincere": genuine, whole-hearted, whole-souled, heartfelt, hearty, unfeigned, candid, open, frank, plain, honest, honorable, conscientious, scrupulous, upright, straightforward, aboveboard, and forthright. Now do the same exercise with these words as you did with the sad ones.
Is that not the loveliest feeling?
It will never be enough for you to feel this way for someone if it is not returned. You may feel strongly and sincerely, but if you aren't a recipient of the same sincere love, it will only hurt and thus it isn't really love, because love is healing not damaging.
May we always remember this.
With love (sincerely),
and with lighter boots,
Nicole
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| why is that? |
Do you ever have those mornings where you wake up and suddenly everything that hasn't worked out the way you wanted it to just hangs over your head, and you can't shake the thought that it's something you did wrong?
I've been having a lot of those mornings lately.
Why do we hold on to hurtful things? Why is it that we would rather replay negative feelings over and over again as opposed to release them? Why are they always there? Ready to take over?
What's even more crazy is that we have this tendency toward lunacy in that we hang on to the one-sided love affairs. We tell ourselves that we love him or her and we hold onto what we choose to believe as moments of him or her returning that love. We do this because it's better to feel tortured than to feel nothing.
Now think back to the exercise I had you do at the beginning of this post. Didn't it just seem more and more unnatural the more into you went on? Now listen to this clip from The Holiday.
I guess my question today to you is, why do we allow ourselves this painful pleasure? What do we stand to gain when we risk everything for a sure failure?
We each deserve to be loved and to love in a sincere way. Synonyms for "sincere": genuine, whole-hearted, whole-souled, heartfelt, hearty, unfeigned, candid, open, frank, plain, honest, honorable, conscientious, scrupulous, upright, straightforward, aboveboard, and forthright. Now do the same exercise with these words as you did with the sad ones.
Is that not the loveliest feeling?
It will never be enough for you to feel this way for someone if it is not returned. You may feel strongly and sincerely, but if you aren't a recipient of the same sincere love, it will only hurt and thus it isn't really love, because love is healing not damaging.
May we always remember this.
With love (sincerely),
and with lighter boots,
Nicole
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