Dear Men: Get Your Sexy On

It's been awhile since JT brought sexy back and I'm getting a little worried that it's gone missing again.

I want to ask you fine young men a question and I want you to answer it honestly, especially since you're reading this to yourself (I guess this could go for the women too, but really, guys, don't pawn this off on us). Here's the question: How often do you see something that you want and you go for it? A job, a girl, a whatever (think about a girl, because you and I both know that's where I'm going with this).  Honestly, how often?

Women are attracted to men who go for what they want. There is nothing less sexy than a guy who asks permission to kiss the girl.  Women like assertiveness, women like men who take charge.  We understand that it's hard and intimidating and nerve-wracking thing to do, BUT THAT'S WHY IT'S IMPRESSIVE/SEXY. I be serious.

If you want something it's there for the taking, if there is a girl you like do something to make her yours, if she says "no" that sucks and all, but then you know. Honestly getting told "no" shouldn't make you more gun shy the next time, brush it off and try again, now knowing you can do it.

Here are some tips that'll help you out:

1.) Don't make such a big deal out of it: You don't have to know 100% if you're super "interested" sometimes being curious is good enough. That's the whole point of dating is to find out if you could be interested.  In fact, it's probably easier and smarter to ask girls that you have a hunch about as opposed to the dream girl you've made up partially in your mind that you've attached to that girl across the room.  And those experiences will make you braver.

2.) Keep it simple stupid: Plan simple, easy dates. Nothing elaborate or over the top, if you do you'll just overwhelm both yourself and the girl.

3.) Don't swap roles (for long): She doesn't want to be the man in the relationship any more than you want to be the woman. If a girl is inviting you to do stuff, just the two of you especially, she's interested. Don't leave her hanging, let her know either way, if you're interested or not.  If you are, take control of the situation and start asking her out.  If you're not, end it in the kind of obvious way that you'd like to be told by a girl that she isn't interested in you.  You don't like to be left hanging, neither does she. 

4.) Don't be a nancy-boy: This one kind of sums up the rest of them. All you need is that 20 seconds of insane courage.  Go for it! Go for it! If you want to ask her out, do it.  If you want to kiss her (and you've been out a couple times) kiss her.  Don't overanalyze, let that be her job, she'll do it well enough for the both of you.