Question for the Fellas: The Ignoring Game
Here is a question from a reader that I cannot answer by virtue of my gender. Alright guys, have you or any of your guy friends ever liked a girl and then ignored her at a social gathering? Ever? For whatever reason? (even if you knew it was stupid or couldn't figure out why you were/he was doing it?) Please answer below or on the Facebook page. Remember you can comment anonymously in the section below. ;)
I have to admit that I have ignored a girl that I liked at a social gathering. As a preface, I am very shy and get extremely nervous around girls that I like. I agree with the e-card you posted above. I don't ignore her to be mean/rude, I just find it difficult to move outside my shell and go for it. BUT I am working on it!
ReplyDeleteSean, you're the best. Thanks! And you're allowed to be nervous to talk with girls in social situations, we're nervous about it too.
DeleteOf course. Guys don't want to get to know girls at social gatherings. They want to get to know girls one on one. Plus you don't want to get interrupted, or have your conversation broken off when someone else comes up to chat. If you like a guy at a social gathering, find him for 20 seconds during the night and tell him you are there to see some old friends, but that he should call you and the two of you could grab lunch together and chat sometime.
ReplyDeleteOh Kyle, I don't know you but I think you're wonderful! Thank you for your answer, it's really insightful. We ladies just need a good clue in from time to time. Thanks for commenting! I hope you stick around ;)
DeleteYes, I have ignored a girl I was interested in, but that’s assuming you mean ignoring in a preemptive sense? Most guys aren't cold enough to ignore you after you speak to them directly.
ReplyDeleteAnyway, I, along with my friends, have ignored a girl to see if she would seek me/us out and initiate a conversation. Sort of a low grade barometer to judge her interest level --not the best way to go about it for sure, but it often takes experience (like getting ignored yourself) to learn better ways. My advice would be just talk to the guy. It doesn't have to be a long and complex conversation, something simple that gives him some room to respond would be a good way to judge what his interest level is. If he seems responsive to you, he might just be shy. If, after a direct attempt or two he doesn't give you substantial feedback, or seems evasive, it’s probably time to cut bait and move on.
You purposely ignored a girl... as in planned it? KIRK!
DeleteBut I'm curious, did she come over?
I only ignore guys I like because I can be an intensely awkward person.
So, I should check this more often since I never saw you had replied. Slightly amusing it happened on the ignoring post, but to offer a severely belated response to your question-
DeleteNo, I didn't sit at home for a week planning out how to ignore the poor girl. She came to the event and it was a quick decision on my part in an effort to avoid my own brand of awkward directness I had recently become aware of. The outcome was that nothing happened. We did talk briefly towards the end of the event, but I never made a serious move and she didn't give any overt signs on interest, probably taking my insecurity for disinterest. But, like I said, lesson learned. I’d rather occasionally pull my foot out of my mouth than miss another opportunity.