(Marketing) Relationships Top Five Mistakes

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For my communications class instead of papers and tests we were assinged to write a blog about communications and marketing in whatever field of interests we may have.  For those of you that don't know I am studying to be a literary agent and editor, thus my blog is about such. 


The most recent post I wrote was about typical mistakes made by authors/new businesspeople while networking and wielding deals.  As I was writing I suddenly saw that light that "relationships" are "relationships"  some of the stuff I was writing struck me as intensely insightful (as they usually do) and I decided to share the insightful stuff with you lovely people.
And here we go, the Five Most Common Mistakes Made (with a lovely twist):


5.) Asking Before You Have the Right-- don't be creepy/weird/too intense.  Dating is supposed to be fun.  It is supposed to be a positive learning experience. Dating is supposed to be a good way to make friends and possibly launch a relationship.  Thinking about that I have to pose the question, "since when?!"  Men, women, everyone don't ask for stuff (whatever that stuff may be) before you have the right. 


4.) Doing too Many "Favors" While Generating Relationship Capital-- Men like to do big gestures and women like to cling to make the other one feel their interest.  Keep things simple, easy and effective.  Don't give too much of yourself in any way too soon.


3.) Not Being Specific About Your Needs—No one really reads minds, (don’t believe the infomercial people at 3 am, they just want to take advantage of your sleep deprivation)  people can’t guess at what you want. There is nothing wrong with asking for what you want. Just be upfront and honest, and not to mention specific.  Just remember to not dominate the relationship. 


2.) Being Afraid of the Word “No”—Something incredibly profound that I’ve learned from publicity work that I love sharing with others because it has immense applications is, “if you are not ready to hear the answer ‘no’ you have no right asking the question.”  I’m going to write that again to help it sink into your brains, “if you are not ready to hear the answer ‘no’ you have no right asking the question.”  A no will not kill you, it may sting, but it won’t kill.  Number One: It’s better to be brave and ask the question than to grapple with doubts and fears.  Number Two: Let the person be able to say no. No one like being painted into a corner, so don’t do the painting.


1.) And the Number One Biggest Made Mistake: Not Making Connections with the Right Connectors--  In business or in love it is the same (common mistake and most important aspect) who you decide to build a relationship with is elemental.  Be smart about who you choose to connect with.  Don’t pull the crap that is, “the heart wants what the heart wants, I have no control.”  Yeah you do and you know it.  Be careful about this if you are careful about anything!  Only pick people who will make you better, not a fixer-upper, not a dumb hot girl, not someone who is shallow, vapid, crazy or selfish. Pick someone who want you to be happy and that you want to be happy.  It’s called mutual benefit.


Brilliant right?  Thoughts?  Please comment!