Creepy vs Cute: Asking Before You Have The Right To-- Elaborated

Click here to see what it looks like to a girl you've never met when you try to get her to go out with you.

Guidelines:
        a.) Don't ask out a girl you've never before seen without any real conversation at first. Why? Because unless a girl is on the slutty side she doesn't like guys to ask her out just because of what she looks like; it's offensive. If you meet her in a situation that you know you may never see her again (she isn't a friend of a friend) at least strike up a conversation first and then suggest meeting up somewhere public to do something that won't take up too much time.
        b.) If she seems uncomfortable or distant or says "no" the first time you ask her, leave it alone.  Persistance is only cute in movies.
        c.) Hanging out only confuses the situation.  If you like a girl, and you know her (you don't need to be friends already) just ask her on a date.

Main point: ask out girls for the right reasons.  Don't be pushy. Don't be lazy. It's a balancing act, but it's ultimately worth it.

In a previous post I mentioned that one of the biggest mistakes made in relationships is "asking before you have the right to ask" and I've gotten questions as to what this means.  I understand that there is a great debate amongst the men as to whether or not flat out asking a girl out on a date, whilst using the word "date" (oh heaven forbid) is creepy and stalkerish or not.  Some guys debate that you need to be friends first and hang out a few times first, some argue the opposite.  Well, this girl  wants to throw in her opinion.

  The question here is whether or not it's okay to walk up to a girl get her number and ask her out.

Exhibit A:  Once I was sitting in the Orem Institute of Religion's game room, alone, on a couch reading a book.  I got thirsty so I got up, went to a vending machine and bought myself a chocolate milk, sat down and continued reading.  About 30 seconds later a random guy, whom I had never before seen let alone talked to, came and sat next to me and said, "are you real?"  I looked at him leeringly and affirmed that I was.  He said, "I was just sitting over there and saw this ridiculously cute girl buy a chocolate milk--making her even cuter-- and sit down and start reading a Sherlock Holmes book-- making her even more cute-- and thought to myself, she can't possibly be real."  Now, I'm not great at concealing a look of disdain, my normal face tells people that their idiots unintentionally, so I'm pretty sure that the look on my face at that moment told this kid that he was about the dumbest person I had ever encountered.  But, alas, he was not to be deterred. 

He then told me that he absolutely had to take me out on a date.  I said that I had concerns about the fact that I didn't know who he was, nor did I know anyone who did know him.  He introduced himself as if that were to relieve my worries.  It didn't.  He was persistent and quite frankly annoying.  So I agreed to meet him at IHOP for a brief breakfast.  We ate.  He didn't seem to be a serial killer so I agreed to a game of pool back at the institute.  He asked me out for a second date, of which I declined.  I just wasn't interested.  Sorry.  But no, that wasn't quite enough.  Two years later he finally got the hint. ---And in case you didn't, that's creepy and weird.  Guys don't do that.

Exhibit B:  I knew this guy vaguely.  We had mutual friends and had known of each other for years.  At one point I could tell he thought I was cute and would have liked to ask me out.  But presumably he didn't want to come off as the random creepy guy he kept inviting me to hang out with him (or maybe he is just lazy and lame).  After a few hang outs and no real attempt to date me on any, regardless of how minimal, official level I gave up and went out with other guys and stopped responding to his texts and hang out offers. --- In case you didn't catch the moral: that is LAME.  Guys don't do that either.

Exhibit C:  I met a guy in one of my classes.  We sat next to each other and would chat everyday before class and would walk together as far as our routes would allow to the next class.  After a few months he asked me on a date.  I was excited.  We went, it was fun and we ended up dating for a little while. --- Moral: that was not creepy, weird or lame.  It was fun and impressive.  Guys, do that.

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